Why are most of us
struggling to obtain success? You likely experience a pattern of thoughts that
hold you back so you can create the success you need. From thinking your lack
of success is the fault of others to negative past experiences, you may be
holding yourself back. Here are a few main ways you are holding yourself back:
Blaming others
This is a very common thought
process that results in many people not taking action on their goals. They
get held back in the thought that it’s the fault of their
parents, teachers,
government or somebody else. But when we get to adulthood we struggle to
switch from being reliant on others to get by, to being responsible for
ourselves.
So, we blame others for not
handing us success. We say things like “How dare the government cut my
benefits, how am I supposed to live?” or “I would have decent education if
I just had a good teacher at school”.
What we should be doing is
looking at ourselves and wondering why we aren’t getting the pay rise or
promotion or getting that job in the first place. We must put in the work
to reap the rewards and not blame others for our own misfortune. Nobody is
going to give you more than you are worth and just hand you success on the
plate because you think that is what you are due. We need to take
responsibility for our own lives and create our own success.
A lack of resources
“I can’t start on online
business, I just don’t have the time, money or skills to do it.” “I can’t
go to the gym because it is just too far away and too expensive.” “I can’t
find my perfect partner because I just don’t have the time to go out and meet
people.” Sound familiar?
We commonly use these excuses
to get out of working hard on even the things that we want to do and makes us
happy. We spend hours a day in front of the television and then say we
don’t have time to go to the gym or take a class. We waste our money on
things we don’t need, then say we don’t have the money to start a
business. We need to turn this on the head and instead of making excuses,
we need to get up out of our comfort zone and do the things we have to do to
create the success and happiness we deserve and want.
Fear of failure
A lot of people don’t aim for
that high because they automatically think they will fail and be a
laughingstock of their friends, family and colleagues. When what they
should be thinking is that failure is part of learning and creating
success. It is legend that Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before
inventing the light bulb.
And he invented other things
along the way. How many times did you mumble your words when you learnt to
speak, how many times did you fall of your bike when you learnt to ride it, how
many times did you fall when you learnt to walk? Failure is a
prerequisite to success, embrace it.
A negative past
A common struggle with people
and their thoughts is maybe there was a past struggle or affliction that can
hold us back. Growing up with illness and as a result we struggle with
school and learning. Maybe not having the support structure that is seen
as the norm can hold us back.
This is understandable to a
certain extent, but how many times have we heard stories of people, like rapper
50 Cent, who lived a life of crime and even nearly died after being shot, then went
on to being a successful musician.
And there are many others who
are brought up in broken homes with very little and can’t see a way
out. You just got to find the right key to the right door. And that
key is hard work on the right things and the door is your dream
lifestyle. Take action now, become an inspiration.
We all have negative thoughts,
it is how we use them that either holds us back or creates the success we
crave.
How do you handle you negative
thoughts? Do they hold you back?
By: Nathan Elward
Image: likesuccess.com
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